BTS’ RM has become the talk of the town after his recent Weverse livestream. The idol completely opened up about societal expectations surrounding marriage and having children, highlighting the pressure women face nowadays.
The idol shared his most honest and reflective thoughts with all the fans and the K-Netizens. The collective reaction was positive, and some even stated he should be running for president in the future.
The BTS leader shared that he often feels people are being pushed into marriage by social and media expectations rather than their personal choices. He just wishes people could live their lives at their own pace without taking into consideration other people’s expectations.
“When it comes to marriage, I think a lot of people feel pressured, both by reality and by society. Especially women, since there’s constant pressure from the media and people around them about having kids or other responsibilities. It feels like we’re all being pushed into a mold, but honestly, I just wish people could live life at their own pace. I don’t think there’s a single right answer.
From my point of view, if someone can’t handle being alone, then even if they get married, will that really fix things? Because when you’re married, there will still be moments when you want to be alone… that’s just human nature. So I think people who are comfortable being alone can also be good partners when they’re together with someone, and vice versa. But choosing marriage as a way to escape loneliness… I’m not sure that’s the right approach.
In addition, BTS’ RM also wanted to discuss the complex idea of raising children. The idol admitted he still finds the thought difficult, as he reflects on how much trouble he gave his parents while he was growing up.
“As for having kids I really don’t know. I already find it challenging enough to take care of myself, so raising another life… it’s not something that goes the way you want it to. Kids have their own personalities. When I think about how much trouble I gave my parents growing up, I can’t help but think, “What if I have a kid like me?” Ugh, just imagining it… I’d love them, sure, but it’d be tough.
There’s no right answer to any of this. People who are married can only speak from the perspective of someone who’s married, and people who aren’t married can only speak from their own experience, and neither side truly understands the other. So, I think we should just take the stories and experiences of people around us as what they are, their experiences.
In a way, I think our generation, those of us born in the ’90s, are the first in Korea to really see marriage as an option. And because of that, I believe we should all just follow our own choices.”